Author: George Pitagorsky

By Moderating your behavior, whether you are a Type A or Type B personality you can get even better than you already are. But, let’s focus on the Type A’s.

What happens when you meditate and cultivate some distance between yourself and the things that usually drive your behavior?  You become patient, relaxed, your blood pressure goes down, and at times you lack an overriding sense of urgency.  These are some of the characteristics of a Type B personality.  To a person with a Type A personality, Type B’s look like they are apathetic and disengaged.
Type A’s have been characterized,  as as “ambitious, aggressive, business-like, controlling, highly competitive, impatient, preoccupied with his or her status, time-conscious, and tightly-wound. People with Type A personalities are often high-achieving “workaholics” who multi-task, push themselves with deadlines, and hate both delays and ambivalence.”[1]

Some highly successful people have gotten to where they are because of their Type A traits and are running out of the oomph that is required to get further ahead or to sustain and retain their current status.   They may still have  the oomph but they may be having difficulty dealing with “lesser beings” – people who are not Type A’s and those who may be less intelligent and less driven than the Type A manager may think they should be.  That difficulty may result in frustration which turns to anger which, in turn, becomes abusive behavior.

Highly driven people need to moderate their behavior and attitudes in order to work smarter rather than harder.  Because they have reached a stage in their career at which they must rely on others to get things done they need to cultivate patience and moderate the tendency to be sharp and even angry with people.

Type A personalities are often saddled with the belief that it is detrimental to cultivate the traits associated with Type B’s.  “Who wants to be apathetic and disengaged?”

Project managers can cultivate a skillful balance.  They need to be patient, objective and relaxed without being apathetic and disengaged.  They also need be ambitious, assertive (as opposed to aggressive), business-like, in control (as opposed to controlling), eager to get things done (rather than impatient and highly competitive),  time-conscious, and alert, but not tightly-wound. Being preoccupied one’s status is not a particularly useful trait, though being aware of one’s status and how to maintain and use it is.

How does one cultivate a skillful balance and become a patient, relaxed, highly motivated, high achieving project manager?  Start by doing mindfulness meditation so you can be aware enough to have the ability to decide to choose your behavior moment to moment rather than be driven to act out based on habitual patterns.  Learn to calm down. When you see yourself about to impatiently lay into someone, pull yourself back, calm yourself down and the optimal way to get what you want done.

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Based on the Article “Perceptions and Their Effects” from Breakthrough Newsletter, April 2009

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change!” – Wayne Dyer

As a business analyst one must be objective.  The primary job is to be able to reflect the needs of a situation and its nature with complete clarity and candor.  We may use modeling techniques to both elicit and describe processes and the nature of the people places and things within them but the critical capability is to be free from bias; to reflect as a mirror reflects, simply displaying what is presented to it completely and without distortion.

“This is good, that’s bad.  This I like.  That I don’t like.”   Our tendency to label things as being good or bad often puts us at a disadvantage when it comes to using our experience to our advantage and the advantage of others.

There is a parable about a man who captures a wild horse.  The people in his village say how fortunate he is.  The man’s response: “Maybe.”  Then, his son breaks his leg while trying to tame the horse.  Everyone says “How unfortunate”.  The man again says “Maybe”.  Then the army of the local warlord comes around to require service from the young men of the village.  The son is not taken because of the broken leg.  “How fortunate.”    If the “lucky” man had experienced the roller coaster of emotional responses would it have helped him?

Our perceptions are filtered by our mental models – beliefs, values, cultural norms, etc. – and by our emotional reactions.  Our perceptions drive our judgment and behavior.  To change perceptions, step back and free the mind from the habitual reactions.  Respond skillfully, where skillfully means in a way that helps to achieve goals.  

How do we step back?  Using mindfulness meditation we can cultivate the ability to be objective; to experience a state of mind that is behind (above; beyond) our normal sense of self.   This doesn’t mean to deny that we are who we are.  It doesn’t mean to give up our ego or to give up anything else.  Instead of giving something up, it is reconnecting with or emphasizing a part of our mind that is already present.    When this part of the mind is active we can simultaneously be aware of what is happening and be completely engaged in it.   

There is nothing particularly magical or mystical here.  To meditate there is no need to join a monastery or renounce the material world.  We simply learn a relatively simple technique and make the effort to use it.

When we look without filters, objectively, we can see things as they really are.  When we drop away useless or damaging mental models we are more likely to address real issues with effective responses.  As we take that step back, we are less likely to be caught up in our emotions.  That is what emotional intelligence is all about, the ability to avoid emotionally driven reactive behavior. 

If we expand this idea beyond the confines of our own mind we can see that sharing our experience with others enables us to see things more clearly; we are less likely to react; more likely to respond. 

In the world we live in there are successes and failure; positives and negatives.  We might all agree that a project or an event that fails to meet expectations is not as “good” as one that does.  How can we reconcile this with Wayne Dyer’s quote and the notion of objective, non-judgmental perception?  We can look at failures as opportunities to learn.   We can perceive harmful events as they are and be in a position to first accept and then make the best of the situation.

As Max Lerner has said, “I am neither an optimist nor a pessimist. I am a possibilitist.”   We can adjust our perception from looking at the past and reacting to it, to one of looking towards the future and responding in the present in a way that makes the future more likely to be of benefit to ourselves and those around us.  We can look at the glass as being half full or half empty or simply as a glass with an amount of liquid in it that just happens to be half of the glass’ capacity.  Then we can look at it with a clear mind and see what it may mean to us.

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